It’s a New Year and the “New Year, New Me” mantras are still running rampant throughout our lives.
From social media, to news broadcasts, to conversations with our girlfriends we are all talking about our goals and how we are going to be successful because we are going to conquer our fear of failure.
But, what if you aren’t afraid to fail? What if you are actually afraid to SUCCEED?
Dare I say that most of us have failed at something before; your 9th grade math class, your statistics final in college, a relationship, your first job…you get the picture. And to go a step further, some of us, including myself, have had major failures, like flunking out of my Master’s program.
So we are well aware of what failure feels like and the impact that it can have on our lives.
However, as we step into the unknown world that is our goals and following the “crazy” dreams we have, to let’s say, start a new business, write your first book, lose weight…whatever it may be, we have no clue what our lives would be like if we ACTUALLY succeeded.
And that may be where your fear lies.
Here are 10 things I learned that helped me conquer my fear of success:
Give yourself permission to be great.
Often times, we don’t perform at our absolute best for fear that others may think we are showing off or simply because we are scared of our own greatness. Don’t be!
You were given your talents, vision, and drive to manifest a greater purpose. Somebody is waiting for your greatness to be encouraged to be a greater person as well.
2. It’s okay to make mistakes.
I call it dancing in the rain…and it will definitely rain. But that’s okay, the rainbow is worth it. Your mistakes help you learn what works and what doesn’t, so rejoice in them. You will be greater because you were able to see the bright side, even in your error.
3. Your dream does not have an expiration date.
A dream delayed does not mean a dream deferred. Life happens, and sometimes the journey to your dream takes a detour. Stop setting expiration dates and start setting completion dates for your goals.
4. Listen to your inner voice.
Be quiet, get still, and listen. You know what you need to do!
5. Remember why you started.
Don’t get so caught up in getting to the finish line that you forget why you started the race. Your passion lies in the reason why you started in the first place. Sometimes, in the hustle and bustle of accomplishing your goals, you have to take a trip back to where it all began to get the push you need to keep moving forward.
6. Don’t make comparisons.
We are not who we “post” to be! Remember that. Stop comparing your chapter 1 to someone else’s chapter 26. Congratulate yourself for getting past the introduction to your journey.
Your journey is yours alone and has been perfectly written for you!
7. Be/Get Inspired.
Read lots of books, take nice long walks, visit new places, talk to positive and encouraging people, play with your children; do whatever you need to do to be inspired to live your dream!
8. Fear reminds you to be Faithful.
You know you are dreaming big enough when you are scared to death! In those moments, you are reminded to turn that fear into faith and to keep walking. You are good enough!
9. Toot your Own Horn.
You are on the road to achieving your dream and it is okay to let the world know how excited and proud you are of yourself.
Share your journey with others. Share your accomplishments and your mistakes. You never know how your journey may encourage someone else or who may have an encouraging word to help you get to the next level.
10. Don’t Take it Personal.
Not everyone is going to cheer you on. Some of the people who you believed would be there to support you no matter what, will not be there…and guess what…it’s okay. You cannot take everyone where you are going, so continue to live YOUR dream. At the end of the day, it’s YOURS!
No matter what you fear, success or failure, it will inevitably arise. The key to being a conqueror and living your best life lies in what you do with that fear.
Don’t let it keep you from being your best self. Allow it to propel you into your greatness.
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