Life has a funny way of working out. It sometimes seems like the more mature you get, the less control you feel you have over your life.
If only life could be as simple as a childhood game… remember the one in which you would pick the age you would be married; whom you would marry; where you would live; and how many kids you would have?
If only you could get everything you want by simply pointing and choosing.
Unfortunately, that is not how life works.
Have you become frustrated, waiting to receive your heart’s desire? Take heart. There may be things that you’ve wanted to happen and have waited so long for that you’re about to throw in the towel.
But before you give up, don’t. PLEASE try the following:
1. Be Patient
Complaining while waiting is not patience. Not only do you need to be patient with yourself, you must be patient in your process. Don’t get caught up in instant gratification and microwave results.
Anything worth having is truly worth waiting for.
2. Reevaluate Your ‘Wish-List’
This is a reminder to not obsess over things that can’t happen until something else does.
In its simplest form: do not become anxious and do yourself a disservice by skipping steps.
You will be required to walk it out. Be realistic, understanding and compassionate with yourself. Greatness takes time!
3. Have Expectancy
Have you heard the saying expect less to keep from being disappointed? Well, when your expectations are low, you will be disappointed.
Think, “Why not me” and “Of course, this great thing can happen to me”. Start talking the talk and walking the walk. Your actions, the words you speak and even the company you keep must be aligned with your great expectations.
4. Be Content
This does not mean “settle”, but to love what you currently have and appreciate who you are and what you give to this world.
Although you are a work in progress, that is not a reason to be unhappy while working toward your goal or waiting for things to happen.
Many forget to appreciate where they currently are, believing that they can only be happy when they get there.
5. Have Perspective
Keep your disappointments in perspective. Here is an interesting fact: if you run in the rain you will get 50 percent wetter than you would if you stood still.
What this means for you is: don’t run from your storm – it’s not designed to drench you. You can be so focused on not getting what you want that you don’t realize that you’re exactly where you need to be.
6. Take Appropriate Measures
Don’t allow yourself to evaluate what you should have had or where you should be based on other’s expectations. One sure way to be unhappy is to compare your life to someone else’s or to determine your success based on where others expected you to be.
There is no need to explain your mistakes or justify your path to anyone.
Popular culture has dictated that if you want something, no matter what, who or the cost, you can have anything you want. But is that really true?
It is possible that there may always be things that are unattainable – to keep you reaching, growing, stretching and believing.
Looking at the glass half-full, what if you didn’t get the things that you wanted because you are deserving of more. It just might not be in the package that you thought it would come in.
However, if you keep a positive attitude, grateful heart and open eyes you just might realize that you are getting what you wanted and life is really working out for you…it really is.
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