Dear Black People,

It’s time we stop chanting “Black Lives Matter” and start living “Black Lives Matter.”

Be honest. At this current moment in time, how many of us truly feel like our lives matter?

When we see black women being demoralized, our children being introduced to more hip hop dance moves than books and our brothers being slain by gun violence (not only by the police but each other every single day), how much value do we really put on our own lives?

It’s time to take the focus off of what “White America” owes us, what “White America” should do and place the focus on our own front porch.

We all know racial and gender inequalities exist. There is no contesting that fact. Some people may not like what I’m about to say, but we spend way too much time trying to change society’s perception of us and not enough time embracing ourselves.

If we have to convince people of our value they’re not the right people for us. There is no need to invest energy in trying to convince someone of my value when they don’t care. We can’t always control how people treat us but what we can control how we treat ourselves, how we see ourselves and what we represent in the world.

We have to learn to own who we are and whose we are, stand in our power, and stop looking to other people for acceptance or validation.

We don’t need validation.

We’ve already been validated by the Creator.

We have to give ourselves permission to be great. Because OUR lives truly do matter. And I don’t think we acknowledge that enough.

Each and every one of us a unique set of gifts and a purpose here on earth. And our focus should be on living lives of purpose and doing what we have been called to do. That means waking up in the morning with the intent to carry out that purpose. When we’re listening to the noise and what everyone else has to say it’s a distraction.

We already have within us everything we need to be sufficient and walk in our purpose. Stop waiting for society to give you permission to take action.

Stop waiting for someone to validate who you are.

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Stop waiting to be somebody. YOU ARE ALREADY SOMEBODY!

I want to share one of my favorite quotes with you, from Marianne Williamson:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world.

There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in all of us. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Take the leap of faith, own who you are, believing in all that you’ve been created to be and STAND IN YOUR POWER!

Are you using the gifts and talents that God gave you?

If the answer is no, I want you to think about what becomes possible when you OWN who you are. When you share your gift with the world, what becomes possible? When you own your worth, what becomes possible?

If the answer is yes, I want you to take a moment to share your gratitude with the universe. Embrace the fulfillment of your purpose. Own your genius.

My life matters. Your life matters. Our lives matter.

Every life matters. The individual work you do is the best way for you to contribute to the society.

Say yes to yourself. We are people of value and our lives truly do matter. I don’t care who you were yesterday or even when you woke up this morning, it’s time to begin a new reality.

There’s no more playing small.

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