Have you ever experienced anxiety and paranoia? It’s one thing to experience one or the other, but a combination of both can leave you pulling out your hair and biting your nails to the nub.

Unfortunately, I have reached this level (for the gazillionth time) and it usually stems from wanting the best but expecting the worst. I often internalize fear whenever I feel things are going great.


Because nothing lasts forever – even good things…at least in my world. I’ve believed this for quite some time, but couldn’t recall when and how I developed that notion until recently.

I am my own worst critic.

I don’t mean to be, but when I feel the odds are against me, the fear of failure that I’ve internalized transitions into my thoughts. The result is losing my optimism about goals I want to accomplish.

What were once positive thoughts that resulted in positive actions transform into lack of action due to negative thinking. The mind is a powerful tool. It’s powerful enough to change how we navigate through life.

If we believe nothing good will last forever, our actions will prove that.

I get that!

I’m a business owner and an online entrepreneur who still works for someone else. Some would say that I should feel blessed to have a job, a roof over my children’s head, etc. However, I always ask myself if it’s in me to achieve more. Sometimes, I ask myself if I’m mistaking my fear of failure with fear of success.

I’ve acknowledged that I am the reason I’m not where I want to be.

For years, I’ve stayed in my box, expecting success to fall into my lap, but it never happened. I’m learning that my box has never been big enough for my blessings, so I need to step out of it. That’s the power of positive thinking – knowing that if you want to see different results, you have to do things differently.

Stepping out of the box would also imply that I’ve gotten rid of the fear that has been holding me back.

As I take that first step out, understand that it’s the scariest, yet most courageous thing I’ll ever do. As an introvert, I’m stepping out into a world full of criticism, opinionated people, and a different range of personalities, likes, and dislikes.

I like my comfort zone, but I understand nothing ever grows there.

As I take my second step, confidence and optimism leads me. When we step out of our box, we take risks. We use our newfound courage to try something different. They say if you’re uncomfortable, you’re moving in the right direction.

I want success just as much as the next person, but I know I’ll never have it if I don’t leave my comfort zone.

All it takes is a change of heart and a change in how we think of ourselves.

Our comfort zone is a beautiful place. However, instead of trying to expand it, stepping out of it completely is more helpful.

Sometimes, the box is not strong enough to hold all the desires of our heart.

I get it now.

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