Are you a single female? Are you a hopeless romantic wishing, praying, and hoping that the next one will be THE one?
If you answered yes, sister you are not alone. The desire for a lifetime commitment is completely normal. Women are emotional beings who naturally inhabit feelings of love.
I too am a single female.
I too am a hopeless romantic wishing, praying, and hoping that the next one will be THE one.
I am also a 26 year old who has never been in a relationship. So whatever you fantasize about, imagine that feeling times 10 with me!
For a very long time, I was upset, sad, and depressed about my singleness. I was mad at God because I felt like He’d left me out. Like He’d forgotten about me. Single when all of my friends are either in long term relationships, living together, engaged or married, I felt like singleness was a sentence.
A sentence that my very own thoughts held me captive to.
One day I had to check myself. I had to ask myself, “Girl did you forget who has all the power? Did you forget who you gave your life to?” I had to get back into my Word. I was spiritually weak, and the enemy was having his way.
In my quiet time, I was reminded that God is in complete control of my life, and I now rejoice in my single season.
This is what He told me:
1. I created you
Psalm 139:13-16 (NLT) You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous- how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every day was laid out before a single day had passed.
God knew you before you were born sis. He has your entire life written in His Book of Life, even this very moment. Rest easy knowing that He has not forgotten about you.
2. I want to have a personal relationship with you
God wants to know you personally. Get intimate with Him. Be intentional about spending time with Him. Not just in the car or right before bed either.
Set aside time specifically for God, to study His Word, so you may remember the promises He made to you. Speak to Him so He recognizes your voice. Love Him the same way you wish to love your husband one day.
3. I love you
John 3:16 (NLT) For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life.
What a promise to hold on to! God loves you so much already. As single women, we spend so much time waiting for a man to love us that we forget that God loves us like crazy and reminds us over and over again in His Word! He is delighted when we only acknowledge Him; imagine His elation when we decide to become intimate with Him!
When we finally understand the strength and power of God’s love, we have a standard. And we learn to never settle for less than a man who is trying every day to love us the way God loves us.
4. Chase after Me
Matthew 6:33 (NLT) Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.
There is a fullness, joy, and sense of peace that comes with spending quiet time with God. I send a charge to you to also seek God, that He may fill you with an unspeakable joy and a peace that surpasses all understanding.
That man will come. But, while you’re waiting for him, God is waiting for YOU!
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